How Can I Stop My Heart From Hurting?

Listen KeiranK, there isn't much you can do, the pain will still come, but there is a couple things I do to ease my pain a little bit when I am broken hearted. I like to read romance novels (LOL but don't do that...I'm a girl :) lol) and I like to just sit and write out my feelings into poems. it helps me to kind of get back at the person, not out of revenge, just to help pour out those emotions and live my life as it normally is, that is pretty much all I can say, because really, love hurts, if you can't deal with the heartache than don't love at all :)

I have been hurt so many times by my exes both emotionally and physically and I have found that the best way to heal at least for me is writing and listening to music. It will take time to heal but it will get better and just remember that your love is out their just be patient and believe and love will find you.

First you have to understand the pain is mental; not a feeling in the heart. Excuse the heartbreak killer theory. Once you can clear your mind of the thoughts of the lost you will notice that the feeling which is radiating in your core will disappear. In addition, most people do not want to move on from a feeling of pain, because the pain keeps them sain enough to go on for awhile. This pain can seem to last for days even weeks at a time without the person looking for a way to do other things besides think about the hurt. It is the thought of the rejection that keeps the person feeling down, a feeling which is so strong it feels like your body is reacting to a drug, but if the person can change the thought process which is causing this damage; they will notice a decrease in the pain, and a increase in the joy. Peace

Ever heard that phrase "better to have lived and loved then never to have loved at all"?  Well, there is meaning behind that.  I know you're hurting now; feeling like your heart was ripped out of your chest, sliced, and deep fried (sort of speak).  The ONLY way you will get comfort, speaking from personal experience is to give it all to GOD.  I don't mean unfaithfully.  If you are not saved, I can lead you to know my friend Lord Jesus Christ, who has proved countless times to me of His power and reality.  Christ (Jesus Christ) was a man that many people believe "died for his beliefs", not unlike Ghondi.  However, while on earth, he healed hundreds of people, was witnessed in healings and miracles from hundreds of people, and took on the most brutal and horriffic beating in history; not one other man in history has been known to withstand.  Even at this, he did not die.  Like Christ himself said, his life can not be taken (as in killed) but that he must lay down his life.  He fulfilled hundreds of prophesies that were prophesized hundreds of years before His coming.  He died to take on the sins of the worls, so that we can believe in what he's done and accept the Holy Spirit within us; i.e. God Himself.  When he died, he ressurrected from the grave after 3 days and ascended "into the clouds" as witnessed and written.  Upon believing upon Christ dieing for our sins, being burried, then ressurecting as our "Comforter", you will accept the Holy Spirit within your body.  ONLY THEN can you call upon the Lord to put peace inside your heart and to comfort your pain and anguish.  When I do this, it's nothing special.  In fact, I am usually crying in pain and anger when I pray to Him, in which I feel relief and comfort within 5 minutes...NOT KIDDING!  But you have to TRULY believe that He will work in your heart...TRUE FAITH!  One also has to suck up their pride of feeling like you can handle it yourself or that you can seem to face God like you are...don't be silly! God loves us and wants us to confide in Him so that He can show you what He can truly do in your life. God Bless!

Sorry so long!!!

well put sonya! i couldn't have said it better myself! and if for any reason u r still doubting the great Lords powers, then maybe u should read a poem written by urs truly when i too was suffering from lost love! and hey i will even post it here for u!

                                                                       Faith

My life starts to suck as it runs down the drain

I'm tied to the tracks and here comes the train

The clouds begin to hover as the sun goes away

Here come the shadows of another bad day

The light bulb burned out that sits above my head

I've realized I've forgotten what the good book said

I've lost all hope and my Faith passed away

I wonder how my life ever got this way

My head bowed in disbelief as the tears began to swell

Darkness covered the door to the exit from this hell

My intense level of fear began to rise at the fall

Of the many footsteps loudening in the dark hall

My eyes squinted shut and my heart began to pound

I crouched into the darkness hoping not to be found

The footsteps then stopped right next to my side

A hand touched my skin and my pain began to subside

I opened my eyes and then focused my sight

The once darkened tunnel now glittered with light

My ears tuned into soft melodies being played

I saw the face of a man and was no longer afraid

He knelt in front of me and looked into my soul

My Faith was returning and I began to feel whole

He reached into his pocket and pulled out a case

He set it in my hands and then he caressed my face

The music then softened as he whispered in my ear

"The contents will help you to no longer fear

You were never forgotten and you never will be

Just remember my words and believe in me"

Then he turned and left faster than he came

The hallway never darkened it still glittered the same

When I opened the case I found a small note

FAITH was the only word the good Lord had wrote

So if you are ever sad remember he is there

And always have faith because he does care

Hi,

You say you aren't doing too good, which means you are still together.

If you really love her, then show her.  I don't mean just tell her, or even write her a poem.  I mean show her by your actions that you want to make her life more important to you than your own, that you will live a life where she is who you chose to be with, and loyal to forever, which means whe she is sick, complaining about everything, hair a mess, fat with your baby, losing a job, growing old beside you. 

Lots of people say they love someone so much, they would die for them...so what?  The hard part is living beside someone every day, seeing them for only their best, because their life is what makes you a better person.  That is what love that lasts is built upon.  It isn't a selfish thing, rather it is about giving to the other person.

On the otther hand, if they don't love you the exact same way, unconditionally, and totally committed to you, giving you the things in life that are common goals, then you are not with a person who will last an entire lifetime.  Only you can be the judge.